Writing about things that inspire my writing, and trying desperately to power through writer's block!Ask me anything
There are people who believe that modern society treats men and women equally, but those people must have, like, zero experience of women in the real world
Because every girl I know has felt intimidated sexually at least at one point or another in her life, and usually quite often
Or they’ve experienced patronisation or discrimination because of their gender, because men don’t think of women as being as smart as them. They just don’t. You might be finding this hard to believe, because you’re surrounded by people who are liberal and under 25, but you would be amazed at how many men believe that women are for sticking their dick in and making them dinner. And not just bad men or big men. Men who are praised by their communities. Men who are nice.
My friend Sophie has a snapchat account and people send her random pictures of dicks. It’s fucking harrassment. She doesn’t like it. She wants it to stop. It won’t.
My friend Avey can’t walk down the street without people wolf-whistling at them; today three people honked at them while they walking down the street. Men in cars who could easily swing by and take them by force into the car. That is not a wild fantasy, it’s something that happens.
They had to just deal with this fear, this embarrassment, three times in one walk. They’re fifteen years old. Wanna talk about this society’s fucked up relationship between how we loathe paedophiles more than anything but continue to forcibly sexualise young teenagers? I could go on.
The way the world treats women (and of course by the world I mean MEN) makes me angry and frustrated. And when Avey’s telling me about this shit she has to deal with every day, it makes me disappointed in my own gender, and sharply aware of my own privilege.
Women deserve the same rights as men. They do not have them. If you think otherwise, you are naïve. If you do not wish to fight for their equality, you are part of the problem.
With the “men don’t think women are as smart” thing, I’ve got first hand experience of that. The way people (well, men) treat me now, compare to how they did when I was pre-transition is astounding. Men look at me in the eye when they’re talking to me now. They actually listen to me. They agree with me. They take me seriously. That never happened before, when I appeared female.
It’s insane. And it made me realise the way I spoke to women as well could be just like that on occasions. It’s really important to think about the biases you’ve picked up from society and work towards changing them.
If you’re a feminist man, and feminism isn’t constantly making you question your behavior, and making you feel uncomfortable about your behavior, you’re doing feminism wrong.
holy fuck, this
i astound myself with some of the sexist things i think sometimes, i’m constantly catching myself thinking terrible things and then stopping myself and reprogramming to be a better person. I’m a white man, there is a lot ingrained in me that doesn’t come from a place of cruelty, but just of ignorance. I learn more about myself every day, and i like to think that the more i know about myself, the better i become.
They’re just like thick pieces of flesh on your face covered with hair and for some reason you can control them?
I miss tacos.